Success and Failure

Two things actually define a man (and a woman before feminists come after me); how you handle failure and more importantly how you handle success. Many people for fear of failure have never ventured beyond their comfort zones and have therefore settled for mediocrity. Some who dared to venture and failed have dwelt so much on that failure and have refused to venture again. But failure is just a feedback and a wise person takes the feedback and learns what it takes to success.
On the converse side, some have allowed little success to get into their head, became arrogant and condescending and never eventually actualized their potentials. They have cut short their journey to real lasting greatness because of preliminary success that is just a preparatory ground for the real deal that God has for them.
How do you handle failure?
How do you handle success?
Will you ever get to your desired destination?

To your success,
Dr KM Okonoda
http://www.doctorokonoda.com/
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Poverty reduces brainpower, study

A few years ago, I went to speak at a chapter of the Full Gospel Fellowship International. The subject of my talk was on Wealth Creation and Financial Intelligence. I essentially established the fact that God wanted us to live a wealthy life here on earth and then move on to eternity to continue a life of wealth. I then shared a few opportunities and strategies to beat poverty and move on to abundant living.
Well, it was an exciting time. However, one of the members asked how I could preoccupy myself with such 'mundane' subjects instead on concentrating on my practice as a Psychiatrist. I remember I told him how what I am doing is in complete fulfillment of my calling as a Psychiatrist because a lot of people, though not having frank psychotic illnesses, are not living in good mental health because of poverty and lack. Their quality of life is compromised and they make decisions that further compromise their life and health further.
Well below is a link to a recent study that validates what I believe and why I am doing what I am doing.  
Poverty reduces brainpower, study

To Your Success,
Dr Okonoda.

Do You Have A Closed Mind?

I was talking to a younger colleague who believes he has done all he could to improve his financial state without any results. The problem is that he has involved himself in things that are largely illegal and unsustainable. And when he attempted to do a legal and sustainable one, he has done it in his own way based on his previous experiences.
So, I became empathetic and attempted to make make him see alternative ways of doing things rather than holding on to a set way and limiting beliefs. However, he just was not ready to even consider the possibility of being wrong before, let alone the possibility of alternatives ways! He has a closed mind!
Do you have a closed mind? Do you see things based on your previous experiences and beliefs which in themselves may not be based on the truth? A closed mind will not allow you to get the best out of life be it in marriage, career, business, ministry and other areas of your life.
For you to get the best out of life, you must be open, inquisitive and ready to learn! You should be able to consider alternatives even if you have some biases against them in the past. Your bias may be unfounded and based on half truths!
To your success,

Dr KM Okonoda
http://www.twitter.com/mayorking 
http://www.netwealthconsult.com
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Speaking With Grace.

Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossian 4:6

Have you sometimes had conversation with somebody in which you finished the conversation knowing that the person was saying the truth, but you were left emotionally drained, abused and deflated? You were probably thinking that you could have said the same things; pass the message across without attacking the ego (self-esteem) of the hearer!

Sometimes people are quick to quote scriptures to justify themselves. After all scripture says that ‘open rebuke is better than secret love’.  So, some have taken the moral high horse, become rude and crude in their approach, all in the name of speaking the truth and being blunt! And when people say that they are blunt, they are sometimes coming from the place of knowledge or success. So they sometimes look down on the less knowledgeable and less successful and talk down on people anyhow.

But our verse today says there is a way that you can pass that message across that will be with grace, seasoned with salt, in answering and talking with everybody. It is instructive to note that everybody has an ego (self-esteem), a sense of self-worth that helps them to function as an independent, confident entity. Whenever you talk to people and seek to attack and damage that self-esteem, you are doing more harm than good.

The Power of NO.

"Where ever you go, where ever you are
Do not say yes, when you mean to say NO".
Such a simple but powerful poem, talking about such a simple but powerful word.
If you don't know how to say NO to people, albeit politely but firmly,
you are most likely going to end up broke, feeling used, and unfulfilled.
You may never get to achieve the things you set out to do. You may end up robbing yourself and loved ones of resources and time; while fulfilling the desires of people who may not see the need to put in the sacrifices and hard work you put in to make life worthwhile for you and your loved ones!